NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

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Podcast by April and Scott

NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

Naughty Gym Show is a podcast about non-monogamy, open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and the skills of building strong relationships beyond traditional monogamy. Hosted by Scott and April Shirley, the show explores how couples and individuals can create honest, ethical, and emotionally strong non-monogamous relationships. Each episode dives into the real work of modern love, communication, jealousy, autonomy, intimacy, trust, and personal growth. At the center of the show is a simple but radical idea: relational freedom. The belief that love grows strongest when it is chosen freely, supported by honesty, autonomy, and mutual respect rather than control or fear. These conversations draw from the broader framework behind Wild Love Theory, a modern philosophy of relationships built around authenticity, autonomy, and expansive connection. If you’re curious about ethical non-monogamy (ENM), exploring open relationships, navigating polyamory, or simply trying to build a more honest and resilient partnership, this show offers the conversations and skills most people were never taught. At Naughty Gym, relationships are treated like something you train for. We talk about the philosophy, psychology, and practical skills required to build relationships that are strong enough to hold freedom, truth, desire, and real intimacy. Expect deep conversations, practical insights, and honest stories about love, sex, commitment, and the future of relationships. Welcome to the gym.
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30 June 2026

Naughty Gym Invades X-Club: Inside A Lifestyle Weekend In Toronto

We just got home from hosting our first Naughty Gym weekend at X Club, and we are telling the whole story.

In this episode, Scott, April, and Andy recap four days at one of the most impressive lifestyle clubs they have visited. They share what surprised them about X Club, why it felt welcoming for both first-timers and longtime lifestyle people, how the club separates partying from play, and why that setup made the entire experience feel safer, easier, and far less overwhelming.

They talk pool parties, late-night dancing, Luna Matatas’s workshops, a packed Saturday-night crowd, the people they met, and the unexpected truth that they went to a huge lifestyle event mostly to dance, talk, connect, and enjoy the energy.

The conversation also goes deeper into what helped April feel unusually relaxed and free during the weekend, why rigid relationship agreements did not work for them, how couples can stay connected without turning an event into a contract, and why everyone has to find their own version of comfort, curiosity, and play.

Plus, there is an ice-maker discovery, a drag-queen ambush, a bank-account hack, a questionable amount of DoorDash, and a reminder that Andy may be the most dedicated hotel-room vacationer alive.

Whether you are curious about X Club, considering your first lifestyle event, or simply want the behind-the-scenes story of a wild weekend with friends, this episode is for you.

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Naughty Gym Info:

Naughty Gym Website- www.naughtygym.com

Naughty Gym Patreon- https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGym

Our Upcoming Events:

1. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026

2. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

3. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise

4. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain

5. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze

6. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027

- https://hedonism.com/bbbb

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09 June 2026

Dealing With Fears & Insecurities in Non-Monogamy

Fear, jealousy, and insecurity are normal in the lifestyle. But should every fear become a rule? In this episode, April and Scott talk about how couples in swinging, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy often handle insecurity by creating rules, limits, and boundaries. Sometimes those rules help. But sometimes they become permanent cages that prevent real growth. We break down the common R.U.L.E. Pattern and offer a healthier alternative with the F.R.E.E. Framework, a practical tool for processing jealousy, reexamining the story fear creates, asking for care without control, and expanding the capacity to love more honestly and freely.

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21 May 2026

The Bad Prophet: You’re Probably Not as Good at Reading People as You Think

How good are you really at reading people? Most of us like to believe we are above average at detecting lies, sensing energy, reading body language, picking up on vibes, and knowing what someone “really means.” But the research tells a very different story. In this episode, April and Scott unpack one of the most quietly destructive patterns in relationships: the confidence we place in our own interpretations, especially when fear gets involved. They begin with a hilarious and painfully revealing self-test. Are you better than average at spotting a liar? A better driver? Less biased than most people? More emotionally intelligent? Like most of us, April has strong answers. Then Scott brings in the numbers, including studies showing that people are barely better than chance at detecting lies, wildly overestimate their own abilities, and almost never think they are more biased than the average person. From there, the conversation turns personal. April shares how old survival patterns can make her misread silence, body language, or a delayed response as evidence that something is wrong. Scott tells a story he has never shared before about seeing April texting, feeling an instant threat response, checking her phone, and realizing she had simply been messaging her son about her grandbaby. Nothing was wrong, but his body had already built a case. This is the heart of what they call The Bad Prophet in their upcoming book, Wild Love Theory: the part of us that takes partial information, adds old pain, turns fear into certainty, and predicts a future that may not be real. In non-monogamy, the Bad Prophet can be especially powerful. A partner flirts with someone else, makes out with someone else, gets quiet, seems distracted, or does something slightly unexpected, and suddenly the mind begins narrating: I’m not enough. They want them more. I’m losing them. This means something about my worth. But pain is not always proof. A body reaction is real, but the story attached to it may be wrong. April and Scott also introduce the opposite practice: The Unprophet. Instead of treating your first fear-story as truth, you learn to slow down, separate fact from interpretation, ask better questions, give your nervous system time to settle, and make room for explanations that fear did not choose first. This episode is funny, vulnerable, research-backed, and deeply practical for anyone navigating love, jealousy, non-monogamy, conflict, insecurity, or old relational wounds. You may be intuitive. You may be emotionally intelligent. You may even be right sometimes. But this episode asks the harder question: What if the story that feels most true is only the first draft?

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05 May 2026

The Opportunity: Investing In A Lifestyle Resort & The Power Of Why In Non-Monogamy

Yes, we’re part of a new lifestyle resort project in Florida, and in this episode we bring on Jimmy Thorpe to talk about the vision, the opportunity, and what could become one of the most exciting lifestyle destinations in the United States. But the real story is bigger than the property. This conversation is about where non monogamy is headed. For a long time, a lot of lifestyle spaces have been built around the same basic formula: drinks, DJs, sex, and weekend parties. And while there is absolutely a place for that, we believe the community is ready for something more. We talk about creating spaces where non monogamy is not just about who you play with, but how deeply you connect, how freely you show up, and how much room there is for people to grow. That means better events, more thoughtful programming, wellness, education, community, inclusivity, and a culture where people can enjoy the atmosphere without pressure. In the second half of the episode, we dig into a question every non monogamous person and couple should ask: Why are we actually doing this? Our answer has changed a lot over the years. What started as something much more sex focused has become about connection, authenticity, freedom, and building a life where we do not have to edit ourselves down to stay accepted. So yes, this episode is about a resort. But it is really about the future of non monogamy, and what it might look like to build spaces that are strong enough to hold more freedom, more honesty, and more human connection.

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28 April 2026

Wild Love Retreat - What Really Happens When You Live This?

In this episode, April, Scott, and therapist Catherine from Expansive Connection unpack the raw, surprising, and powerful reality of the very first Wild Love Theory retreat. They share what shocked them most, what couples struggled with, what breakthroughs happened in real time, and why the weekend felt deeper than any of them expected. From vulnerable men opening up, to hard conversations about freedom, boundaries, burdens, trust, and emotional work, this is an honest behind-the-scenes look at what happens when relationship theory gets tested in real life. They also talk about who this retreat is for, who may not be ready for it yet, and what’s next for Wild Love Theory as the book release gets closer. If you’ve ever wondered what it actually looks like to live this work instead of just talk about it, this episode is for you.

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14 April 2026

April On The Non-Monogamy Hot Seat: Questions To Argue About

In this episode of the Naughty Gym Show, April and Scott pull back the curtain on one of the biggest shifts in their relationship so far: removing boundaries, testing freedom in real life, and learning what trust actually looks like when it is no longer theoretical.

They talk openly about a major miscommunication that turned into a powerful experiment in non-monogamy, what happened when April gave Scott full freedom for 30 days, and how two unexpected real-world experiences challenged both of them to regulate, trust, and grow.

From there, Scott puts April in the hot seat with raw, unfiltered questions about attraction, jealousy, one-penis policies, no-kissing rules, sexual innuendo, confidence, gossip, privacy, and the biggest turn-offs in both men and women. The result is one of their most candid conversations yet about autonomy, desire, emotional safety, and what healthy freedom actually requires.

They also share updates on the upcoming Wild Love Theory retreat, Toronto X Club, Barcelona, El Salvador, new November events, and the huge news that they are officially under contract to purchase a lifestyle resort in Florida.

This episode is honest, funny, provocative, and full of the kinds of relationship conversations most people are too afraid to have out loud.

💰Major Investment Information For Florida Resort (Accredited Investors Only):

Email: scott@wandervest.world

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Our Upcoming Events:

1. Wild Love Theory Retreat - April 15-19th, 2026

2. X Club Toronto Invasion - June 25-28th, 2026

3. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026

4. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026

5. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026

6. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026

7. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026

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