NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

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Podcast by April and Scott

NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

Naughty Gym Show is a podcast about non-monogamy, open relationships, swinging, polyamory, and the skills of building strong relationships beyond traditional monogamy. Hosted by Scott and April Shirley, the show explores how couples and individuals can create honest, ethical, and emotionally strong non-monogamous relationships. Each episode dives into the real work of modern love, communication, jealousy, autonomy, intimacy, trust, and personal growth. At the center of the show is a simple but radical idea: relational freedom. The belief that love grows strongest when it is chosen freely, supported by honesty, autonomy, and mutual respect rather than control or fear. These conversations draw from the broader framework behind Wild Love Theory, a modern philosophy of relationships built around authenticity, autonomy, and expansive connection. If you’re curious about ethical non-monogamy (ENM), exploring open relationships, navigating polyamory, or simply trying to build a more honest and resilient partnership, this show offers the conversations and skills most people were never taught. At Naughty Gym, relationships are treated like something you train for. We talk about the philosophy, psychology, and practical skills required to build relationships that are strong enough to hold freedom, truth, desire, and real intimacy. Expect deep conversations, practical insights, and honest stories about love, sex, commitment, and the future of relationships. Welcome to the gym.
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04 September 2026

Special Episode: Men Need Male Relationships

What happens when a bunch of men who aren’t particularly interested in going to a men’s retreat actually spend a weekend together?

Apparently, something none of us expected.

When Mancation Mountain was created, the plan was pretty simple: get a group of guys together in an incredible Smoky Mountain mansion, eat great food, play poker and pickleball, drink, laugh, hang out, and squeeze in about 90 minutes a day talking about relationships.

Because, realistically, how much “deep conversation” are a bunch of guys going to tolerate?

Last year, those 90-minute conversations kept turning into four-hour conversations. The guys themselves didn’t want them to end.

In this episode, Scott sits down with two men who attended the first Mancation Mountain to talk about what actually happened there, including what they expected going in, why some of the men almost didn’t come at all, and how a weekend built around having fun unexpectedly became one of the most meaningful experiences many of them had ever had.

They talk openly about relationships, sex, insecurity, erectile dysfunction, childhood baggage, non-monogamy, marriage, anxiety, and things some men admitted they had never told another person in their lives.

But this isn’t therapy camp, and it isn’t four days of sitting around crying.

It’s about something a lot of men may not realize they’re missing until they experience it: real friendships with other men who can hear the complicated, uncomfortable, deeply personal parts of your life without judging you, fixing you, or turning the conversation into wife-bashing.

Mancation Mountain is sex-positive, but it isn’t just for men in non-monogamous relationships. Last year included straight, gay, bisexual, monogamous, non-monogamous, partnered, and single men. The common denominator was simply being open-minded enough to let other people live differently than you do.

If the phrase “men’s retreat” makes you slightly uncomfortable, this episode may be especially worth hearing.

Because several of the men who felt exactly that way going in were the same ones saying, three days later: “I had no idea I needed this.”

MANCATION MOUNTAIN - Men's Retreat https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation

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01 September 2026

Barcelona Recap & Our Two-Year Transparency Misunderstanding

We’re back from Europe, and somehow we came home with more than great food, unforgettable stories, and a ridiculous amount of sweat. In this episode, we recap our eight-day Naughty Gym/Aya Society trip outside Barcelona with 29 friends, including connection circles, skinny dipping at a 500-year-old villa, late nights in the Gothic Quarter, an unforgettable drag show in Sitges, April watching her grandson being born over FaceTime while standing outside Sagrada Família, and a few lessons about what happens when Scott attempts to navigate European public transportation. Then we head to Rome, where a bucket-list trip became far more emotional than either of us expected. But somewhere between the Vatican, ancient ruins, wine, and long dinners, we also uncovered something much bigger: a misunderstanding that had quietly been affecting our relationship for nearly two years. It started with something Scott once said publicly: “When I’m sitting in front of someone, I’m trying to fall deeply in love with them.” Scott thought he was describing presence, curiosity, and allowing himself to connect deeply with another human being. April heard something very different, and instead of telling him how frightening that idea felt, she spent two years trying to make herself become okay with it. That realization turned into a conversation about one of the central pillars of *Wild Love Theory*: transparency. What happens when one person isn’t precise about what they mean and the other person isn’t honest about what they feel? When does “doing the work” become forcing yourself to tolerate something your body keeps rejecting? And how can our partners truly know us if we’re showing them the person we think we’re supposed to be instead of the person we actually are? Apparently even the people who wrote the book can mess this stuff up. Plus, we talk about what we learned from Barcelona, why future Aya Society trips may look a little different, our upcoming events, and the release of Wild Love Theory.

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11 August 2026

Jealousy in Non-Monogamy: Invisible Contracts & Unspoken Expectations

What happens when you really click with another person or couple, maybe even have great sex, and then find yourself hurt or jealous when they connect with someone else? In Episode 83, April and Scott talk about the invisible agreements we sometimes create in non-monogamy without ever discussing them. Maybe you’ve played together before and assumed it would happen again. Maybe you went to an event together expecting to spend the night together. Maybe you felt close to someone and were surprised by your jealousy when they met someone new. Problems can arise when those assumptions affect how we treat someone who never knew we had them. We also explore how differently people experience sexual desire. Attraction, chemistry, and opportunity may lead one person toward sex, while someone else can enjoy the same chemistry without wanting to take it further. Previous sex doesn’t guarantee future sex. We talk about what happens when disappointment creates pressure, why someone else shouldn’t have to manage our reaction to hearing no, and how this can affect consent. April also shares how fear of disappointing people influenced some of her own choices in the past. Plus, we get into jealousy between friends and play partners, compersion, autonomy, community, and why communicating our hopes can prevent unspoken expectations from creating hurt feelings.

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28 July 2026

Menopause Unfiltered: Pelvic Health, Better Sex & the Power of Women’s Community

Perimenopause and menopause can affect far more than your cycle—they can reshape your sleep, strength, confidence, sexuality, and relationships. In this candid episode, April and co-host Catherine of Expansive Connection explore how women can move through this transition feeling informed, empowered, and fully connected to their bodies. Pelvic-floor specialist Cara explains why common symptoms shouldn’t simply be dismissed as “normal,” how breathing and mobility support pelvic health, and why the pelvic floor matters for movement, pain, sexual function, and stronger orgasms. Returning Wild & Wise attendees Teresa and Sharon also share how the retreat helped them rediscover self-love, gain practical knowledge, form genuine friendships, and feel less alone. You’ll also hear what’s planned for the 2026 Wild & Wise Retreat, from fitness, nutrition, hormones, relationships, and pleasure to yoga, nourishing food, intentional downtime, and honest conversations in a welcoming, sex-positive space. Whether you’re approaching perimenopause, already in it, or navigating life after menopause, this episode is a powerful reminder: you are not broken, you don’t have to suffer silently, and you deserve support. The Wild & Wise Retreat takes place November 8–11, 2026, in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee. Learn more at NaughtyGym.com.

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14 July 2026

We’re Getting Divorced… to Celebrate Our Love? Our Biggest Announcement Yet

After six years, Naughty Gym is becoming Aya Society. In this episode, we share why we’re making the biggest change our business has ever seen, what the new name means, and why this feels like the next chapter of everything we’ve been building. We also announce the upcoming release of Wild Love Theory, our new book about building relationships that are rooted in freedom, authenticity, and intentional commitment. And yes… we’re also explaining why we’re legally divorcing, and why, for us, it has become one of the deepest expressions of our commitment to each other. In this episode we discuss: * Why Naughty Gym is becoming Aya Society * The meaning behind “As You Are” * Our vision for the future * The Wild Love Theory launch * The Unbinding Ceremony * Why we’re redefining commitment instead of abandoning it * Upcoming events in Portland, Barcelona, El Salvador, Tennessee, Hedonism II, and our Minnesota book launch weekend. If you’ve ever wondered what it means to intentionally design your life instead of simply inheriting it, this conversation is for you.

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30 June 2026

Naughty Gym Invades X-Club: Inside A Lifestyle Weekend In Toronto

We just got home from hosting our first Naughty Gym weekend at X Club, and we are telling the whole story.

In this episode, Scott, April, and Andy recap four days at one of the most impressive lifestyle clubs they have visited. They share what surprised them about X Club, why it felt welcoming for both first-timers and longtime lifestyle people, how the club separates partying from play, and why that setup made the entire experience feel safer, easier, and far less overwhelming.

They talk pool parties, late-night dancing, Luna Matatas’s workshops, a packed Saturday-night crowd, the people they met, and the unexpected truth that they went to a huge lifestyle event mostly to dance, talk, connect, and enjoy the energy.

The conversation also goes deeper into what helped April feel unusually relaxed and free during the weekend, why rigid relationship agreements did not work for them, how couples can stay connected without turning an event into a contract, and why everyone has to find their own version of comfort, curiosity, and play.

Plus, there is an ice-maker discovery, a drag-queen ambush, a bank-account hack, a questionable amount of DoorDash, and a reminder that Andy may be the most dedicated hotel-room vacationer alive.

Whether you are curious about X Club, considering your first lifestyle event, or simply want the behind-the-scenes story of a wild weekend with friends, this episode is for you.

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Naughty Gym Info:

Naughty Gym Website- www.naughtygym.com

Naughty Gym Patreon- https://www.patreon.com/cw/NaughtyGym

Our Upcoming Events:

1. Barcelona Adventure Trip - August 14-21st, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/barcelona-2026

2. El Salvador Retreat - October 12-17th, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/naughty-gym-el-salvador

3. Wild & Wise Women's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/Wild-Wise

4. Mancation Men's Retreat - November 8-11th, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/mancation-mountain

5. Naughty Gym's Holidaze - November 15-20th, 2026

- https://www.naughtygym.com/smoky-mountain-holidaze

6. Be Better At Being Bad - January 2-9th, 2027

- https://hedonism.com/bbbb

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