Reframing Jealousy: Why The Word "Reclaiming" Gives Us The Ick

Jealousy isn’t always about fear of losing your partner. Sometimes it’s about losing yourself. In this episode, April and Scott share a real, recent story from their open-relationship journey that completely reframed what jealousy can mean—and it leads to a breakthrough concept they call “imposed burdens.”

After Scott goes on a separate date (with April’s full consent and clear emotional parameters), April is surprised by a familiar “pit in the stomach”… but it isn’t abandonment, comparison, or panic. It’s something quieter and more revealing: envy of the freedom Scott has to play, explore, and dream—because she’s carrying the invisible weight of life logistics, emotional labor, and household admin. The conversation turns into a powerful (and practical) exploration of how “freedom” in a relationship can be technically true while still being impossible to access.

They also unpack why the phrase “reclaiming your partner” gives them the ick—and why “reclamation sex” can sometimes smuggle in ownership, control, or reassurance-seeking disguised as intimacy. Instead, they share what reconnection looks like for them (spoiler: it’s more about presence, honesty, and nervous-system safety than performing a ritual).

If you’ve ever felt jealous and couldn’t explain why… if you’re doing “the work” but still feel stuck… or if you’ve wondered whether rules are helping you heal or just helping you avoid… this one will hit.

Plus: a behind-the-scenes update on their upcoming Wild Love Theory book release, the new Wild Love Book Circle, and their April retreat in the Smoky Mountains.

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